tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post3813791700242184919..comments2024-03-28T00:17:15.444-07:00Comments on Milan Maternity: The Sleep Book That Saved My LifeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post-48029857188162100062012-06-16T13:05:51.071-07:002012-06-16T13:05:51.071-07:00Wow. That's all I have to say. Opinions are on...Wow. That's all I have to say. Opinions are one thing; evidence based medical studies are another. Babies are not meant to self soothe. This is not a judgment; this is what medical evidence shows to be fact.Delaneanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post-65027983764147465472012-05-24T10:16:15.256-07:002012-05-24T10:16:15.256-07:00The author was not suggesting abandoning a newborn...The author was not suggesting abandoning a newborn. When a baby is older, yes they may still have needs that occur in the middle of the night but they are also capable of sleeping for longer stretches and getting into routines. There is nothing harmful about helping an older baby learn to self-soothe and sleep for longer stretches of time.Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11703373512813585703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post-60234998587934511812012-05-24T07:00:26.651-07:002012-05-24T07:00:26.651-07:00Hi! I know this is an old post but I thought I wo...Hi! I know this is an old post but I thought I would add my two cents anyway. I have to disagree with Delanea. It is very important that babies learn to sleep through the night. If you research long term studies, you will find that babies that learn to sleep through the night when they are young, have much better sleep habits when they are older. I personally used the book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth. There are tons of methods out there for teaching a baby to sleep because, lets face it, it is not only good for the babies but good for the moms as well. It seems so intuitive to me that a well rested mom is a better mom. I know that everyone has to make their own parenting choices and I know that each mom is different. I don’t judge anyone for their sleep choices. . . However, I do think it is important for the sleep deprived mom to know that teaching your child to sleep is not a bad thing and in fact, is important for their health. I would hate for someone to feel bad that they are lovingly helping their baby develop an important life skill.cms87https://www.blogger.com/profile/18391167930517175402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post-85518158373220189582012-05-21T06:19:16.558-07:002012-05-21T06:19:16.558-07:00I obviously didn't express myself completely c...I obviously didn't express myself completely clearly (as I was trying not to have a super long post), but my son slept through the first night, but did wake after that only sleeping through the night a few more times until after he was a year. I most definitely attended to him. He was still nursing regularly at that point, and I did get up with him and nurse him. But like I said, him waking literally every hour was not normal. I am aware of all of the points you made and agree. Not all babies are the same, etc, but it helps to have some idea of how to help them, and to do what we each think is best. One of the hardest parts about being a mom is making decisions for our child and hoping they are the best, but we each have to make our own educated decisions. I would NEVER, though, say to leave your baby completely alone at night and not attend to them, and I don't believe at all that this book says to do that, either. <br />I was only expressing my opinions, and I apologize if they seemed offensive or seemed to suggest that you shouldn't attend to a baby during the night.aniCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1305850404095811987.post-36570979281654955212012-05-18T08:54:57.235-07:002012-05-18T08:54:57.235-07:00Wow, really? I have to call you out on this post b...Wow, really? I have to call you out on this post because this is just another "controlled crying" book like Ferberizing. I didn't find this book to be baby friendly AT ALL. :/ It is NORMAL for babies to wake up multiple times in the night at this age because they have legitimate needs that they cannot meet themselves. My 8.5-month-old wakes frequently and I wouldn't have it any other way (and yes, some nights he'll sleep 8 full hours). We still need to attend to our children's needs at night. Did you know night waking protects against SIDS? None of the books mentioned here are baby-friendly, and in fact the book "On Becoming Babywise" is warned against by the American Academy of Pediatrics because it is a danger to infants and has led to the death of many infants. <br />http://aapnews.aappublications.org/content/14/4/21.abstract<br /><br />Sleep training is just a bad idea from a biological standpoint, period. Here is why:<br /><br />http://www.drmomma.org/2009/12/sleeping-through-night.html<br /><br />http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives.html<br /><br />I highly recommend Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution"<br /><br />http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/no-cry-sleep-solution-gentle-ways-to.html<br /><br />Another post from an expert on why babies should not sleep alone:<br />http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/babies-not-designed-to-sleep-alone.html<br /><br />and here is a complete sleep resource page for new and expecting mothers/fathers:<br /><br />http://www.drmomma.org/2009/06/truth-about-co-sleeping-how-stats.html<br /><br />Any book that claims to know how much sleep your child needs is a scheme. Every baby is different, and they're only young for a short time. Night parenting is just a much a part of parenting as day time parenting. You can still tend to baby's needs and get plenty of sleep without employing potentially harmful "controlled crying" situations.<br /><br />It's too bad you endorse non-baby-friendly books because I really like Milan Maternity products. :(Delaneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17747412470366338897noreply@blogger.com